By Man Admin on November 9, 2011
Women have traditionally been labelled the weaker sex. But the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) data for suicide rates each year contradicts this and shows a consistent increase in the rate of suicides among men, especially married men.
In India, as many as 61,453 married men ended their lives in 2010, compared to 31,754 women. After Chennai, Bangalore tops the list with 515 husbands taking the extreme step. Also, the rate of suicides among married men has almost doubled in the last 15 years. This makes us wonder whether more men are at the receiving end in marriages, or are there other issues that men face that need to be addressed.
According to Sneha Fernandes, counsellor at Transforming Lives, an organisation which provides family counselling, unlike women, men do not have options to vent their feelings of depression or frustration. “Women are expressive. They talk to their friends or family and depend on them for support. Whereas men are used to bottling up their feelings. I meet so many married men who just want someone to talk to and cry, but don’t find the comfort in their partners.”
While the lack of emotional support could be a reason for the high numbers, she says work stress also adds to the problem.
Continue reading “In coping with stress, men could be the weaker sex”
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By Man Admin on August 17, 2011
Sex discrimination complaints made by men have outnumbered those from women for the first time, according to figures compiled by the Western Australian Equal Opportunity Commission.
The EOC recorded a surge in the number of sex discrimination allegations last financial year, with men responsible for lodging more than half of them.
Equal Opportunity Commissioner Yvonne Henderson said studies of the complaints indicated that men were becoming more aware of the treatment dished out to them by employers and service providers.
The majority of male complaints related to sex discrimination in the workplace, with the next biggest category relating to entry to premises.
“We have received complaints from men who feel discriminated against because they have been denied entry to bars for wearing attire similar to women,” Ms Henderson said.
“Men who believe they have been less successful in their job applications have also complained.
She said society had swung too far in favour of women and men were fighting back.
“Since the 1991-1992 financial year, complaints made by men in general have increased from 29 per cent to 46 per cent while complaints by women have dropped slightly.”
She said there had also been an increase in men complaining about sexual harassment – traditionally a complaint lodged by women.
Continue reading “Majority of Sex discrimination Complaints now made by Men”
Posted in News | Tagged Equal Opportunity Commission, Sex Discrimination, sex discrimination in the workplace, sexual harassment, Yvonne Henderson |
By Man Admin on July 19, 2011
Will Storr
Sexual violence is one of the most horrific weapons of war, an instrument of terror used against women. Yet huge numbers of men are also victims. In this harrowing report, Will Storr travels to Uganda to meet traumatised survivors, and reveals how male rape is endemic in many of the world’s conflicts.
Dying of shame: a Congolese rape victim, currently resident in Uganda. This man’s wife has left him, as she was unable to accept what happened. He attempted suicide at the end of last year. Photograph: Will Storr for the Observer
Of all the secrets of war, there is one that is so well kept that it exists mostly as a rumour. It is usually denied by the perpetrator and his victim. Governments, aid agencies and human rights defenders at the UN barely acknowledge its possibility. Yet every now and then someone gathers the courage to tell of it. This is just what happened on an ordinary afternoon in the office of a kind and careful counsellor in Kampala, Uganda. For four years Eunice Owiny had been employed by Makerere University’s Refugee Law Project (RLP) to help displaced people from all over Africa work through their traumas. This particular case, though, was a puzzle. A female client was having marital difficulties. “My husband can’t have sex,” she complained. “He feels very bad about this. I’m sure there’s something he’s keeping from me.”
Owiny invited the husband in. For a while they got nowhere. Then Owiny asked the wife to leave. The man then murmured cryptically: “It happened to me.” Owiny frowned. He reached into his pocket and pulled out an old sanitary pad. “Mama Eunice,” he said. “I am in pain. I have to use this.”
Laying the pus-covered pad on the desk in front of him, he gave up his secret. During his escape from the civil war in neighbouring Congo, he had been separated from his wife and taken by rebels. His captors raped him, three times a day, every day for three years. And he wasn’t the only one. He watched as man after man was taken and raped. The wounds of one were so grievous that he died in the cell in front of him.
Continue reading “The Rape of Men”
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By Man Admin on January 2, 2011
Posted in Videos | Tagged feminism, Man, Men, Men know, misandry, Oppressed, oppressor, Real work, woman, Women, Women don't know |
By Man Admin on November 25, 2010
HYDERABAD: It’s not just dramatic divorce cases but some real drama unfolding at the Secunderabad family court premises. In the last one month alone, two men in two separate incidents have attempted suicide in the family court “unable to cope” with the mounting pressure of cases and charges (both civil and criminal) against them.
In one case, a 40-year-old man, Venkatesh, battling many charges of harassment filed by his wife consumed a liquid mosquito repellent, which he was incidentally carrying in his pocket during the hearing. He was rushed to Gandhi Hospital and his life was saved. The Marredpally police which took his statement said that he cited `tension’ over the number of cases filed against him as the reason for taking the drastic step. However, he was spared of another case of attempt to suicide as the police let him off with a warning.
The other person who attempted suicide is reported to have lost his job while pursuing umpteen cases at various courts. Apart from a string of cases filed by his wife, this man’s parents had also filed a maintenance claim on him.
Taking a note of such instances at the family court, the judge has now issued strict guidelines to men against trying such tricks to influence the court’s decision in their favour.
Continue reading “Divorce cases bring high drama to family court”
Posted in News | Tagged bandwagon, child custody cases, conjugal rights, court premises, courtroom proceedings, divorce cases, divorce petition, domestic violence act, dowry, drastic step, favour, gandhi hospital, harassment, high drama, instances, mosquito, mosquito repellent, restitution, strict guidelines, two men |
By Man Admin on November 20, 2010
Suparna Chakraborty
Today on the 19th of November, is the International Men’s Day. At a time when evolution of women is taking place, position of men in the society cannot be ignored. A man is the head of the family and on his shoulders depends the security and success of a family. He plays many roles and holds a greater accountability for the well being of the family. International Men’s Day is the tribute to this strong position and role which men play all their life.
International Men’s Day began on November 19th 1999 in Trinidad and Tobago. The day was supported by United States and now it is observed in Europe, Africa, Asia and Caribbean. On behalf of UNESCO, Ms Ingeborg Breines, Director of Women and Culture Of Peace said, “This is an excellent idea and would give some gender balance.”
On International Men’s Day it has been revealed that according to a recent statistics, life expectancy of men is 6 years lesser than that of women. It has been noticed that a lot more care has to be taken about men’s health. The International Men’s Day aims at -
Continue reading “International Men’s Day – Salute To Men Power”
Posted in International Men's Day | Tagged 6 years, africa asia, culture of peace, day at a time, discrimination, europe africa, evolution of women, gender balance, gender equality, head of the family, health men, international men, life expectancy, men power, men s health, men women, place position, shoulders, tedious job, unesco |
By Man Admin on November 13, 2010
On Nov 19, men in Bangalore plan to draw attention to government policies that weigh heavily against them
Not many men in this part of the world know that November 19 is celebrated as International Men’s Day. That’s why the National Coalition for Men (NCFM) has decided that it’s about time they made a big deal about their day — through a Save the Male campaign.
But it won’t be the regular slogan-raising, crying-on-eachother’s-shoulders event but an awareness campaign with a twist. Instead of lamenting on the ‘pitiable’ condition they are in, November 19 in Bangalore will be a time for some fun and frolic.
Kumar Jagirdar, a men’s activist, said, “It has become fashionable to support only Women’s Day, but what about men? We are proud to be men and we need to celebrate it. In fact, 82 per cent of the taxes in the country are paid by men, but the government policies are lopsided. There is a ministry for welfare of animals, but not one for men. Why should men be taken for granted?”
Jagirdar said they were not against women, but only wanted men to be given equal importance and the best way to open the communication channel for men is by celebrating International Men’s Day in a high-decibel manner.
As part of the celebration, men’s activists will gather at the Forum Value Mall in Whitefield and organise a frolic session for a couple of hours in the evening. Virag Dhulia, India liaison officer for NCFM, said, “One such game is a bowand-arrow one called Save the Male. There will be a rotating circular disc with the picture of a man in the middle. The participants, especially women, will be asked to shoot the arrow and if it doesn’t hit the man’s face, the male is saved.” Winners will receive goodies. He said women would be as much part of the celebrations as men and the event was only to highlight the fact that “we are proud to be men”. Well, has the battle of the sexes just got bigger?
WHY SAVE MEN?
According to the National Coalition For Men (NCFM), here’s how men have been pushed to the edge of sanity:
» About 1.7 lakh married men have committed suicide directly due to domestic violence in the last 12 years
» More than 13 lakh men have lost their jobs between 2001 and 2005
» Every year, about 57,000 married men commit suicide in the country; the number of women ending their lives is 30,000
» Men pay 82 per cent of taxes, but not a single rupee is spent for their welfare.
» On an average, at least 98 per cent of men have faced domestic violence in three years of marriage.
Posted in International Men's Day, News | Tagged activist, activists, arrow, awareness campaign, celebrations, circular disc, communication channel, Forum Value Mall, frolic, goodies, government policies, international men, liaison officer, man in the middle, many men, national coalition, ncfm, serious fun, shoulders, slogan, whitefield |
By Man Admin on November 13, 2010
Bangalore: Men,here’s an occasion to celebrate — you have a day for yourself, just like women do!
Not many — including men — know, but November 19 is celebrated as International Men’s Day. And the theme for this year is ‘Men are Emotional Beings’. “Indian men face a lot of problems, but these are not taken seriously by the government or anyone else. There are no men’s organizations in India by the government or by any NGO. But there are many organisations for women and children, focusing on their problems and issues,’’ said Virag Dhulia, India liaison officer, National Coalition For Men (NCFM), on Friday.
As per suicide statistics provided by the National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB), every year more than 57,000 married men are ending their lives, compared to 30,000 married women, he said. Realizing that awareness is the key to the solution of men’s problems, NCFM, Bangalore, will conduct ‘Save the Male’ at Forum Value Mall at Whitefield on November 19, from 4pm to 8pm.
Posted in International Men's Day, News | Tagged 4pm, bangalore, crime records, domestic violence against men, Forum Value Mall, gender equality, imd, india government, indian men, international men, liaison officer, male victims of domestic violence, many men, married men, married women, men s health, national coalition, national crime, ngo, no men, organisations, suicide statistics, violence against men, whitefield |
By Man Admin on September 24, 2010
By Niesha Lofing
Mike and Brandon McNealy spent almost every night for two months this summer under or in a beaten-down 1979 Lincoln Continental.
The Wilton duo bought the jalopy through Craigslist, got it running and then set out to ready it for the demolition derby at the California State Fair.
McNealy, a heavy-equipment mechanic for the state, and his 16-year-old son stripped the car’s interior and installed a steel roll cage. They put in a custom exhaust system and a floor shifter, rewired the car and replaced its stock gas tank with a racing one.
Hundreds of hours of side-by-side labor did more than just help Brandon win best-looking car, first place in his heat and fifth place overall in the demolition derby. It helped to strengthen the relationship between father and son.
“When we’re out there, just the two of us, he’ll talk more about his girlfriends and stuff that ordinarily he wouldn’t share with me,” McNealy said. “It’s a great way to spend time together and pass knowledge from one generation to the next.”
Technology changes. The economy changes. But some things never change. Some fathers still take time out with their sons – fishing, playing sports or video games, tinkering on cars. Even in challenging times, these unshakable dads are forging family ties, modeling manhood and fatherhood, and delivering life’s most important lessons.
Continue reading “Father-son bond a key to young men’s development”
Posted in Blogs, Featured | Tagged california state fair, challenging times, county probation department, custom exhaust, demolition derby, economy changes, family ties, father and son, gas tank, heavy equipment mechanic, jalopy, juvenile justice system, lincoln continental, mcnealy, playing sports, rob goldman, roll cage, suffolk county probation, suffolk county probation department, technology changes |
By Man Admin on August 29, 2010
New Delhi: Giving a new dimension to equality of sexes in modern times, the Delhi High Court on Friday held that an unemployed man cannot be forced by the laws to “beg, borrow and steal” but pay alimony to his wife.
“Under the prevalent laws, a husband is supposed to maintain his unearning spouse out of the income he earns. No law, however, provides a husband has to maintain his wife, living separately from him, irrespective of the fact whether he earns or not,” said Justice S N Dhingra.
Interpretating the laws pertaining to maintenance in the wake of changing times, Justice Dhingra said, “Court cannot tell the husband that he should beg, borrow or steal but give maintenance to his wife, more so when the husband and wife are almost qualified and capable of earning and both of them claimed to be gainfully employed before marriage.”
The court passed the order while setting aside the order of a family court which had directed the husband, who was unemployed, to pay a maintenance of Rs 5,000 per month to his wife. It noted that the wife, who was equally qualified as her husband and was working in an MNC, cannot ask for maintenance from her husband who lost his job.
“We are living in an era of equality of sexes. The Constitution provides equal treatment to be given irrespective of sex, caste and creed. An unemployed husband, who is holding an MBA degree, cannot be treated differently to an unemployed wife who is also holding an MBA degree. Since both are on equal footing, one cannot be asked to maintain the other unless one is unemployed and the other is employed,” said the judge.
Posted in News | Tagged alimony, caste, constitution, creed, delhi hc, delhi high court, dhingra, equal footing, equal treatment, equality of sexes, husband and wife, job, jobless men, maintenance, marriage, mba degree, mnc, new delhi, new dimension |
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